Pep's Thoughtful Spot: Generosity & Excitement

Wednesday, May 16, 2007

Generosity & Excitement

My dear, sweet friend called again today. She wanted to tell me she had a dream she was pregnant with a baby for BT and Me! There was such excitement in her voice as she told me it was the most realistic dream she's ever had. She so wants to have a baby for us - I am touched by her love and generosity.

1 comment:

Happy said...: My best friend and her husband offered to donate sperm for us. I was shocked, humbled, and touched more than I could ever imagine. It put my best friend into perspective and I realized how much she loves me. It makes me cry just thinking about it.

When I told my husband about it, at first he was really excited because my best friends husband is about the same height and they have the same coloring (even both irish). Then we gave it more thought. We decided that they were too close, it would be weird, and possibly hurt our friendship. However, we did decide that if we were going to do donor insemination we would like to do a known donor, but not someone who is a really close friend.

I did have an acquaintence offer. She and her hubby live in another state. He said that he was willing to meet the child when he/she was old enough to understand. It was very important to me that I know who the donor was because I wanted to be able to find out any information necessary. Sweetness and I talked about it for a long time. Sweetness keeps reassuring me that he is comfortable w/it, but I don't know if I am. Or, if I believe him. Sweetness is having a hard time and grieving for his infertility (it has recently been confirmed). I am worried about the phychological ramifications and the long term affects on our marriage. I haven't thrown the idea away, but it is currently pushed to the back of the list of options. In the meantime, we wait.

All I can say Pep, is think very carefully about all aspects. You have to make sure that you and your husband feel good about what you decide.; 12:41 PM